We know, don’t we?
Oh yes!
We think we know, don’t we?
Why do we always assume that
we see the situation clearly,
we know what we would do,
we know what we would say,
we know how we would act.
I think it is safe to say that one can never know how a situation feels
unless we’ve been there,
unless we’ve lived that situation,
unless we’ve felt it for ourselves.
And even then,
we are all different people,
situations occur
under different times and circumstances,
with different people in it.
So, I try not to assume I know what is the best way to deal with situations/problems.
At best,
you can try to understand and approach the situation from all different kind of angles.
I think listening to the person(s), asking them questions,
is a good start.
Because in asking them questions, you make them look at the issue from a different point of view.
In talking about it in a more detached way, emotions tone down and
there is room for new views, for solutions.
Once they come up with options themselves,
the way is cleared to move on.
You can ask if they want help,
you can be their back up plan.
But only if they want you to be.
Don’t be the savior,
Don’t turn them into people who need to be rescued.
Everybody needs help once in a while,
but that does not mean they are helpless.
They are still capable of doing a lot of stuff.
It’s just this one issue that is causing them to reach out.
Be there,
but don’t ‘rescue’.
The more people feel they are still in charge of their life,
the less the problem will impact their life,
and the quicker they will find a way to resolve it.
My invitation to you all this week is:
don’t assume you know,
don’t think your way is the only way,
don’t think your way is the best way,
don’t be the savior,
don’t see somebody, who is dealing with an issue, as a victim,
respect people as your equals,
just be there for them,
when they want your help, give it,
if they do not want it, don’t force it on them.
Be the person they can turn to,
knowing,
they won’t be judged,
they won’t be belittled,
they won’t be victimized.
You can also implement this on yourself if you are facing a roadblock in your life.
Don’t diminish yourself,
Don’t see yourself as weak,
Don’t consider yourself a victim.
Consider this situation an invitation:
to take a step back,
to observe the situation from all angles,
to create a solution.
You are not helpless,
you are still a very capable person,
you just need to deal with this issue right now.
Knowing
nothing is forever,
change is a given in life,
what is true today may not be true tomorrow,
knowing we know nothing
makes us humble,
makes us see that in love we can find almost all the answers, if not all.
Love makes you
more understanding,
more compassionate,
more connected.
Be love
to yourself and to everyone around you.
Namaste.
Katrien
www.lifecoachwomen.be