The Law of Polarity.
I know I’ve already written a blog about it once, or maybe several,
but I think it’s good to remind ourselves of that law from time to time.
I don’t know if you are familiar with the laws of nature but one of them,
The Law of Polarity, states that:
Everything has a positive and a negative pole.
Everything!
I know, I know,
sometimes it takes me some ( okay a lot of) time too,
to find something positive in a shitty situation.
But there always is.
Always.
Of course, the moment you say this, people always try to find an extreme situation where we can’t seem to find a positive side.
But the thing is,
there always is.
It’s not because we, humans, can’t always understand or see a good thing in a bad situation, that there isn’t any.
It’s often something that we may not observe but that is there all the same.
Sometimes you become a better person because of what happened to you and you vowed never to become like them nor act the way they treated you.
Sometimes it takes time and suddenly something may become possible because of a negative thing that happened years ago.
And other times, we’ll just never know.
Let’s stick to ‘normal’ situations for now.
When we are faced with:
‘bad luck’,
a setback,
an annoying situation,
an unfair judging,
…
let’s first of all,
take a deep breath,
take some distance (literally if possible),
tell yourself not to respond immediately,
breathe and let your emotions subside a bit,
then ask yourself:
‘Is this true?’
‘What are the facts here and what are just emotions?’
‘What if I place myself in the other person’s shoes?’
‘What else could be true here?’
Watch what happens.
You’ll notice that once your emotions are less present,
once you try seeing:
what other side of this situation can also be true,
what else is possible,
what advantages -maybe not right away, but think big, think in the future- this situation can give you,
where the person, who is annoying you, attacking you, giving you a hard time, … is,
at this particular time in his/her life,
…
your mind will open and you’ll start seeing the other pole of the situation.
Knowing that this is a law of nature, and is therefore always applicable,
it will help you to look for, and find, multiple ways of looking at everything.
You’ll need your mental muscles (you can read all about them in part three of my book “less is yes” in which I describe all 6 of them) to learn this.
The first one: perception is very important here.
Change your point of view to be able to see another angle.
As Dr. Wayne Dyer so beautifully states:
“When you change the way you look at things,
the things you look at, change.”
Also the second muscle: Imagination is needed here.
You have to use your imagination to see what else could be possible.
For instance:
You get fired.
Very negative situation, you are upset, you feel like a failure.
What else is possible:
Maybe this job was not what fitted you most and now you have the freedom to go and look for a job that really fits you, a job you really would like to do.
Maybe you did not get along with your colleagues and this was draining you. Now you are free of that negative energy and you’ll feel liberated.
Maybe you were not respected in this job and now you’ll find a job where they see your capacities and respect you for it.
Just use your imagination and see what comes up.
The same goes for every situation:
Take a step back.
Let the emotions fade away.
Start thinking big:
What else is possible here?
My invitation to you this week is:
Take something that is bothering you in your life right now
and start pivoting around this thing/person.
Look at it from all angles.
See what is possible.
See what opportunities may be waiting around the corner.
Approach the situation/person with this new vision in your mind.
Watch what happens!
When you feel yourself, relapsing in your usual responses, in your usual way of thinking,
tell yourself that
there is more,
there are other possible ways of looking and interpreting this.
Keep training yourself and you’ll see
how much easier life will get,
how much lighter you’ll feel as you don’t let yourself get drawn into negativity, into worst case scenarios all the time anymore.
Good luck!!
Keep practicing this and it’ll get easier and easier.
You’ll be amazed with what your world can look like,
If only you look at it from all possible angles!
Enjoy your newly discovered opportunities.
Katrien
