Acceptance,
Accepting things that are outside of our control.
Why is this so hard to do?
Why do we keep fighting the inevitable?
Why do we keep trying to control what we cannot control?
If we do not have full control, it feels as if we are not functioning properly, as if we are failing or something…. But that is our ego talking.
First, we try to ignore it,
pretend nothing is wrong.
“I have this”, “I can handle this”,
you just keep going on as usual.
But as we can’t keep on ignoring what is in our face,
then we get angry because of the injustice of it:
“This is not fair”
“Why is this happening to me?”,
“I did not deserve this “(who ever does…??)
and the blame game starts.
Then we use it as an excuse to not be our optimal self, the blame game goes on….
We just can’t wrap our head around the fact that there are things beyond our control … ego, ego, ego…..
And then we get depressed because,
all of our ‘fighting’,
all of our trying to change what is going on,
does not get us anywhere, or at least not where we (think we) want to be.
What is going on, is still there….
We still cannot accept that there is this reality that we cannot change….
The more we fight things, the more ‘fight’ we get back.
It feels as, if we do not let the universe know that we do not agree with what is going on, we did not do our utmost to change/ control what is going on. But it is not ours to control… ego, ego, ego….
It’s only when we accept what cannot be changed,
that there is room for solutions, for moving forward, for letting go, for finally stopping to try to control the uncontrollable.
Some of you might have recognized the 5 stages of the grieving process as described by Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross.
I used it here because I think this process does not only apply to coping with loss of a loved one,
I think it applies to all situations where we feel ‘loss’,
where we feel we have to let go of someone, of something, of situations-as-they-were.
Only by accepting, we find ourselves in a place from where we can move forward.
Especially today,
where the whole world is upside down,
where politics are crazier than ever,
where people are desperately trying to revive the economy, to get the world back on track,
where people do not know what is true anymore, what works and what doesn’t,
where we do not know who to listen to anymore,
where we have this unseen, unknown ‘enemy’ and we don’t know how to deal with it.
Especially now,
we have to let go of what we used to do, of what we used to know, of what we used to think was the only way to do things, of what we think we can control.
Only by accepting that things are different now (or at any given moment in time as change is a constant factor in life),
we can start:
seeing solutions,
adapting our way of doing things,
re-inventing businesses,
reorganizing how we used to live,
re-thinking our priorities.
As we talked about the scale of vibration frequencies in last week’s blog,
you know that when we are on a higher frequency vibration,
we will attract similar, positive situations.
So, make sure you go to those high frequency levels!
That’s where you’ll find your joy, your happiness, your ‘answers’.
My invitation to you all this week is:
Accept what you cannot control and go from there.
Start from a place of acceptance,
and you’ll feel that it becomes:
easier to bear whatever life throws at you,
easier to move on,
easier to find your path again.
As long as you ‘fight’ it,
‘It’ will fight back and give you a hard time.
Live from your higher self,
let your ego know it is okay to not have control over everything,
it’s okay to not know all the answers right away.
Become still,
start with accepting there is turmoil in your life and go from there.
Everything is always changing, that is a given.
Sometimes we see right away the good part of the change,
and sometimes it takes a (very) long time ….
But never stop looking for the good part in everything.
Change is inevitable,
Life is constant change.
The sooner we accept this,
The sooner we will feel more at ease with change.
The sooner we will feel more at ease with life.
Thank you all for reading me,
Katrien
www.lifecoachwomen.be