How do we perceive the world around us?
What is ‘real’ in life?
How does what we see/ hear/ experience, make us feel?
No emotion ever existed without a thought that preceded it.
So, it’s what we think that makes us ‘see’ the world a certain way.
What we think, colors what we see/ hear/experience.
What we then feel, is caused by that thought.
Just imagine you think someone is mad at you:
You’ll look at that person expecting negative behavior, comments, …
and you’ll hear criticism, disapproval.
We get an affirmation of what we think is happening because we look for this to be true.
And we believe this to be the one-and-only reality.
But is it?
Ever tried asking that person what they really meant?
You’ll do a back flip because of what they will tell you!
They were not mad at all,
they were cautious because they were unsure of what you were thinking because you were subconsciously, sending out vibes of cautiousness, of paranoia.
If there would only be one reality,
then why are there so many ‘mis-understandings’?
Everybody thinks their own thoughts, hence, everybody has their own reality.
Having that in mind, you can avoid a lot of bickering.
Lucky for us, humans, we can choose what we think.
This gives us the opportunity
to look at the world from another angle,
to see another ’reality’,
to understand what else can be possible,
to feel differently about our surroundings, about the people around us.
Choosing what we think, is an incredible power!
It is the power:
to see beauty,
to see love,
to see and feel good.
I know some people say:
this is not real,
this is living in denial.
But is it?
What is the reality?
All the ‘bad’ stuff in the world?
All the negative things happening?
Is this what people see because they hear one of their fears speaking?
Is it them who live in denial of beauty?
Or is it the other person who lives in denial of wrong doing?
There is no ‘one reality’.
Everyone chooses what he wants to see.
Most of us are unaware of thoughts, fears, old habits,
that shape our reality.
Our subconscious mind tries to recognize situations.
When it sees something similar to an old experience,
it pulls out that old memory along with the feelings you felt back then, and this colors the new situation.
That’s why we often react in an inappropriate way,
We thought we knew what was happening and we reacted from that old memory.
Become aware of the fact that it is what you think,
that makes you see the world around you and
this is what makes it feel real to you.
Decide what you will allow to color your world.
Discard thoughts that make you see everything in a negative light.
Develop thoughts, nurture memories that make you see everything in a positive way.
The world will not change because of it, as you cannot change people, nor stop things from happening.
But how you perceive it, will change dramatically.
This becomes an upward spiral:
the better you feel, the more positive you’ll be thinking,
the more positive thoughts you’re thinking,
the happier you will feel.
And so, your world will become brighter and brighter.
This can be your ‘new’ reality’.
Choose how you want to feel by choosing what you think.
You decide how your reality can/ will look like.
It is up to you!
I choose to look for the beauty in life.
It is there.
You only have to want to look for it.
The more positive things you see,
the kinder you’ll become.
The kinder you are, the more you will contribute to a beautiful world.
My invitation to you all this week is:
Decide how you want to feel in life.
Take a good look at what you think when you fail to see the beauty in life.
Flip this ‘reality’ over and see how you feel if you think about it differently.
Look for what else is possible.
The more you practice this, the better you’ll get at it.
Good luck and enjoy being at the steering wheel of ‘what life looks like’
Katrien
www.lifecoachwomen.be