I am so grateful for all the wonderful people I have had the privilege of getting to know and being able to learn from in my life.
My coaches/mentors Marc and Angel Chernoff (Getting Back to Happy, 1000+ little things happy, successful people do differently, …) are part of those amazing people in my life and I apply on a daily basis what they taught me.
When I am on an emotional roller coaster,
when I feel overwhelmed,
when I feel justice was far from present in a certain situation,
when something is bugging me,
…
I quiet down my thoughts and start listening to what my soul knows.
I listen to what my mentors have taught me.
Instead of getting angry, find the lesson.
That may sound harsh but when you look deep into your heart, when you are being completely honest with yourself, …
you know there is always a lesson to be learned.
When harsh words were said:
Listen to what the message was,
don’t pay attention to the way things were said but:
hear what the other person was feeling underneath his/her words,
why was that person angry, frustrated, upset, …?
When things made you feel unhappy,
When something rattled your cage,
When you were disturbed by something, …
Ask yourself:
What can I learn here?
What is going on here?
When you can think about it -as I said in last week’s blog-
without the heat of the emotions blazing through your veins,
you’ll be able to see what the lesson is here for you to learn.
That’s when you’ll be able to turn around your emotions and start feeling grateful for that lesson instead of being angry at the one, or at the situation, that taught you.
Another beautiful wisdom is:
In place of envy, feel admiration.
This helps you in any situation where you might feel envy!
Whenever you feel this green monster lurking around the corner,
recognize it
and tell yourself you have two options:
1: you invite this monster into your heart and all you feel is: energy-draining, annoying, negative, poisonous emotions. Result: you’ll feel even worse as you are feeding the monster and it becomes bigger and bigger until it completely consumes your thoughts/emotions.
2: you recognize your envy for what it is: you are feeling insecure because of what that other person is able to do, knows, … and instead of putting yourself down and making yourself even more miserable, admire the person for it, talk to that person about it and show genuine respect. Result: the positive vibe you send out, will attract other positive emotions and before you know it, you have a positive relationship with that person, you can learn from that person as they will be more than happy to include you into their activities.
Instead of worrying, take action.
This is soooo helpful!!
It reminds me of another quote I love:
“Action is worry’s worst enemy”
As I am a master in worrying and overthinking stuff,
I remind myself very often:
No use going over and over it in your mind,
Take a piece of paper:
Write down what is troubling you.
Write down what actions you can take to handle the situation.
The more action you take, the more you feel you are on top of it,
the less scary things seem.
If it’s something you can’t do anything about it just by yourself,
then tell yourself as Courtney Carver says:
“No amount of worrying ever changed the outcome of something!”
Let it go.
Which brings me to the last quote I will be sharing in this blog:
In place of doubt, have faith.
Have faith that all will be okay.
Most of the things we have ever lost sleep over,
we can’t even remember anymore.
Little things we forget about easily but
even what seems unsurmountable now,
will seem peanuts years from now.
Learn to trust that the Universe has your back.
You are doing okay.
You can handle it,
yes, you can.
The more you have faith,
the more you will learn that you can control how you feel right now.
My invitation to you all this week is:
In any case of
feeling angry,
feeling envy,
worrying,
doubting,
direct your thoughts towards:
being grateful for the lessons we learn in life,
feeling admiration for what other people can, are, … what we can’t do, are not, …
taking action so that problems become challenges we can handle,
having faith and believing it will all turn out okay.
Thank you all for reading me.
Katrien
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