All we hear nowadays is:
Think big,
Dream big,
Travel the world,
Do it all,
See it all,
Be it all,
…
Okay, I hear them, I can relate to some of those statements. I sure can.
But
what if this gives you stress,
what if this makes you feel like a failure, because you will always fail to do it ALL
what if you just can’t do all this, right now
what if you feel you need to perform every single minute of every single day,
what if you can’t stop planning, comparing, … because of this?
Isn’t it sad that we let ourselves get overwhelmed by what ‘the world’ tells us we need to do/have?
Shouldn’t we get to decide what our world/ our life should look like?
That is why I say:
Make your world smaller, simpler.
Replace FOMO with JOMO!
Feel the Joy Of Missing Out instead of the Fear Of Missing Out!
Most people are stressed, I would even dare to say:
we all feel stress,
on different levels of intensity.
We are all ‘sick’ with this disease called stress.
Some people are able to recognize this and create ways to deal with it so that stress does not rule their world.
Other people get sick.
They may not even know it’s stress that is causing their illness, but they are suffering.
That is why I invite you all to make your world smaller, to make your life simpler.
We are all slaves of our stuff,
of our agenda,
of our to do lists,
of our ambitions,
of other people’s expectations,
of our own expectations,
…
What if we start telling ourselves:
“it’s okay to be who I am, and where I am right now.”
And believing it!
Start creating a life in which you feel comfortable,
a life that feels good to YOU.
DO the things that GIVE you energy,
STOP doing things that DRAIN your energy.
You don’t have to do it all, try it all.
You don’t have to do everything at the same time either.
Do some stuff, and see if you really need to do it all in life.
Take the time to feel what is right for you, and what isn’t.
Some things are just not meant for you as other things do feel right for you and but not for others.
Get rid of stuff that is just filling your house, your wardrobe.
Only keep what you use, what you like, what you wear often.
Stop attending events where you don’t feel you can be you.
Stop scrolling hours and hours on your phone or computer,
it does NOT make you happier.
Stop wanting to know everything, to see everything, to hear everything:
You will NEVER know all there is to know, never.
Stop comparing yourself to others, you are not them and they are not you!
There is only one of you,
You are unique!
So BE unique!
Stop trying to be, to do what others are/do.
Most of the time,
they too are struggling to find their identity and they too just do what society dictates people to do.
This is a rather sad situation, isn’t it:
we all do what ‘they’ say we should do but in fact none of us wants to do that stuff because it is not what our heart tells us to do.
that’s why I say:
STOP!
Once you’ve created that smaller, simpler world,
you’ll feel better, lighter, happier,
as if a weight has been lifted from your shoulders.
A weight that you not always realize you are carrying until you stop carrying it.
You finally are allowed to be you, just you.
You finally know what makes you happy because you decide for yourself what it is you will allow in your life and what not!
The more you live in this ‘smaller’ world,
the less stress you will feel,
the healthier you’ll become,
the happier you will feel.
Life will seem easier, lighter, brighter.
You’ll have a clear vision of what you want to do AND you’ll have the energy to do it because you stopped doing all those things that are not meant for you, that are not important for you.
Those things were only important to your image,
to what you wanted people to think of you,
to what you THOUGHT made you happy.
My invitation to you all this week is:
Take a deep breath, become quiet, put your hands on your heart and feel who you are,
feel what really makes you happy.
Simplify your life.
Make your world smaller so that you feel less stress, less anxiety.
Do things that make your heart sing, things that expand your energy!
Create this ‘smaller’ world that is you.
Smaller does not mean, become a hermit and hide from the world.
No,
smaller means: let go
of the things that are not you,
of situations where you feel you do not belong.
It can be hard to let go of things we’ve done all of our lives, because we thought they made us happy, but do we really want to keep doing what does not make us happy?
It can feel awkward not saying ‘yes’ to every invitation you get, because you fear you will hurt other people’s feelings, you fear you won’t get invited anymore, … but do you really want to keep being invited to parties you don’t like? I don’t think so! Start saying ‘yes to yourself’, stop hurting your own feelings!
The good news of living in a smaller world is, there is room now!
Room to see and do what expands your heart!
So, no more FOMO but start seeing the JOMO!
You are finally free!
You finally give yourself permission to be you!
Enjoy this new life!
Enjoy YOUR life!
The more you live as you, the more you will start attracting people you like, people who love the same things as you because that’s how you’ll be living from now on.
You’ll feel more connected, more at ease, you’ll feel as if you’ve come home,
because you will have come home…
HOME to YOU!
Thank you all for reading me!
Thank you all for following me on Medium!
I am so grateful I have the opportunity to share my thoughts with you all!
Katrien
