Fear comes in all forms and shapes.
Fear is what is holding us back.
Fear is what gives us sleepless nights.
Fear is what makes us insecure.
Fear is what makes us feel unworthy.
Fear is what makes us sick in the long run.
When we live in fear,
we vibrate on a very low frequency and on that low vibrational frequency we feel disconnected from our soul, from our dreams, from the Universe, from all possibilities.
I think we can all agree on the fact that is time to let go of fear so that we can start living on a higher frequency, on a frequency of possibilities, on a frequency of joy.
Courtney Carver from ‘Be more with less’ identified the following forms of fear.
One of the fears is FODO
Fear Of Disappointing Others
Especially people pleasers have this fear.
People pleasers are afraid
to let people down,
to hurt people,
to disagree with people,
to say no,
to set boundaries.
But in fact, the only remedy to get rid of that fear is setting boundaries.
Because setting boundaries makes it clear for everyone what to expect, hence it is easier to say no when you feel you need to.
People won’t be disappointed that easily when they know what to expect.
And yes, there will always be people who will still be disappointed,
but ask yourself:
why is that?
Aren’t they the ones who were taking advantage of you not having any boundaries?
It has nothing to do with you, they were setting boundaries for you, but it is not up to them to do that. You are the one who gets to set those boundaries.
Be very clear on:
what you will allow in your life and what not,
what gives you energy and what not.
That is how:
You will respect yourself more,
You will feel better about yourself,
You will feel less depleted because you don’t say yes anymore when actually you wanted to say no.
And trust me, everybody will benefit from it!
Another fear we all know is FOMO:
Fear Of Missing Out
We want to know about everything.
We want to be everywhere.
We want to respond to everything.
We want to participate in everything.
We want to belong.
We want to be noticed.
We want to be liked.
We run around like headless chickens and we miss out on the most important thing:
our own life.
The remedy for this fear is being present.
Live fully in the moment,
Notice what is around you,
Notice who is here with you.
Stop mulling over the past,
stop worrying about the future,
live in the here and now.
Listen so you actually hear,
Look so you actually see,
breathe,
taste,
feel what is here in this very moment.
Cherish the now.
This is something we need to learn.
By becoming still,
by breathing consciously,
by focusing on what is around you,
you will be able to learn to be present.
And by living in the present, you will be living your own life.
Another big fear is
The Fear Of Trusting Yourself
We are always second guessing ourselves.
We are so quick to believe the other one might be right.
We are unsure about:
who we are,
what we want,
what we can expect from life,
what we can say no to,
what dreams we are allowed to pursue.
The more insecure we are about ourselves,
the harder it will be to learn to set boundaries and to live in the present.
Get rid of that fear of trusting yourself by
becoming quiet,
taking a step back,
breathing to relax yourself, to get out of your head and back into your body,
putting your hands on your heart and learning to listen to it.
The more you practice this little ritual,
the easier it will become to be quiet,
to listen to your heart.
After a while,
you will be able to hear what your heart is telling you,
you will know what is good for you,
you will know who you are,
you will know what to do,
you will know how to be present,
you will know how to set boundaries,
you will trust yourself.
My invitation to you all this week is:
Look at what is holding you back.
Look at what you do out of fear of missing out,
out of fear of not being loved.
Learn to connect with your inner voice again,
listen to your heart,
trust and love yourself.
You will be happier, more relaxed, more grounded, more embodied.
You’ll feel more energized.
You’ll be living on that higher vibrational frequency, the frequency of possibilities, of joy, of feeling connected.
That is where you’ll live your life,
That is where you’ll be you.
People will feel that and they will benefit from your happiness too, because a happy, grounded person is kinder, more loving, more tolerant, sees opportunities, smiles…
Let go of your fears and shine!
Thank you all for reading me!
Katrien
www.lifecoachwomen.be