No one ever got any happier
by focusing on the negative stuff in the world.
Do we have to ignore the ‘bad’ stuff then?
Do we have to live in our own little bubble without taking anybody or anything else into consideration?
No, I am not saying this at all.
All I am saying is:
you know/feel what is good and what is not.
Repeating over and over again
what is not working,
what is not right,
what is stupid (in your opinion),
what is going wrong in the world, …
is not getting you anywhere nearer a solution, nor a feeling of happiness.
On the contrary:
the solution can never be found on the vibration of the problem!
We need to get off of that negative vibe to be able to see a way out.
That’s the reason why we have to stop focusing on what goes wrong.
Of course, we first detect there is a certain problem,
we feel something needs to be changed,
that is normal otherwise we would not live in/be connected to the world around us.
But then we immediately have to switch our focus on:
what can I do to make this better?
how can I make a change?
what can I do to get this situation unstuck?
That’s the first thing we need to do:
we need to set ourselves in solution modus.
You’ll immediately feel the field of opportunities opening up to you,
you’re no longer stuck in a problem because you start looking for solutions.
You take a step back, away from the ‘problem’ and
you analyze the situation as an opportunity for growth,
for improvement, for change.
Once you’ve observed/ thought about what is possible,
you can start working on moving towards that solution.
Even if people do not work with you in the beginning,
focus on what you want to see differently and
keep going towards your goal.
That’s why I advocate
living like you would like everybody else to be living,
doing what you want to see done in the world,
serving the planet as you feel it needs to be served,
respecting everything and everyone,
I believe in being an example of what you want to see more of in the world,
instead of fighting against what you do not want to see happening.
I believe in being kind and serving,
instead of fighting, blaming, and being angry.
I feel that by doing nice things,
you radiate positive energy
and by sending out positive vibes,
you encounter other things that vibrate on that same positive frequency.
My invitation to you all this week is:
Focus on solutions.
Look for the positive in people, in things, in situations.
Focus on getting unstuck.
Let your mind be creative in finding answers.
Sometimes you’ll find the answer in the least expected form.
I know that when you’ve been stuck for a while, it can be hard to believe there is a way out.
But believe there is,
there always is a solution!
As hard as it might seem, you can get unstuck!
Take a step back,
take your emotions out of the picture,
calm down your ego,
your ego (your protective self) thinks it is protecting you against the mean, vicious world outside, but it isn’t. On the contrary, it keeps you from seeing opportunities. Live from your higher self!
say to yourself you’ll find a way out of this rut,
turn away from the negativity,
focus on what will help you get out of this problem/ situation.
Start acting in a new way.
Start doing the stuff that will bring you to the situation you want to be in.
Keep up this new behavior and you’ll see the people around you changing too!
There is no need to say to them they have to change,
just by being positive, they’ll be kinder too.
Remember though, you are never responsible for the way people behave.
I know I just said they’ll be kinder too but this is not 1+1=2.
Some people will never change and that is not your fault.
But you’ll see that the majority of people will be nicer when you are nice to them.
You’re only responsible for how you act.
Be kind, feel compassion, especially for those who are not kind.
They are hurting, they are not happy.
I wish you all many positive, solution-oriented, kind thoughts.
Enjoy the feeling of relief, of lightness, that washes over you
once you’ve stopped thinking about the bad stuff,
once you’ve cleaned out the clutter in your head.
(cf part 3 in my new book “Less is yes!”)
The reward of being positive in life is,
you’ll start noticing even more nice, positive, kind things in life.
It really is a matter of switching frequencies.
Go to that higher frequency!
Thank you all for reading me!
Katrien
www.lifecoachwomen.be