Are you INTERESTED in achieving your goals or are you COMMITTED to achieving your goals??
We all have goals, we all have an idea in our minds of where we want to go to, of what we want to strive for , …and yet hardly anyone ever reaches that goal???!!!
First of all in setting your goal, be aware that:
It is something you want to become/achieve/create/…
Know what you want and why or you will always fight the internal battle!
Do not make the mistake of working towards something you don’t want anymore, for example instead of saying:
“I don’t want to smoke anymore”
You say:
I want to live in a healthy way, and define what exactly means “healthy” to you. Then you can work out a concrete plan, create a routine.
Once the decision is made, the internal conlict is over.
Decision comes from Latin and means “to cut off” so once you’ve decided, you’ve cut off all other possibilities.
Make sure it is something that is completely controllable by yourself, because if others control a part of achieving your goal, you may not reach it as you can’t control the behaviour of others.
Define for yourself when you will have reached your goal, define what you need to have done/ achieved/ published/… for you to be able to know that you have reached it!
Set a goal that is also beneficiary for your environment. If achieving your goal would hurt, or would be seen as something negative by, your close ones, than it is best to reconsider whether you really want this or not.
Once the goal is clearly and positively set, then the journey towards arriving there, starts.
Are you really committed or just interested?
Write down your commitment! Read it out loud every day!
If you are committed, you will create all the conditions necessary to succeed.
A lot will depend on your mindset:
You can have a fixed mindset or you can have a growth mindset.
When you are operating with a fixed mindset, you strive for success and avoid failure at all costs! You resist challenges and you move on to another project, without having finished the first one, out of fear of failure. You have no faith, you don’t believe you can do it. That way you will NEVER reach your goals, you will never feel fulfilled and happy.
On the other hand if you work with a growth mindset, the sky (or even beyond) is the limit!
You are willing to take up the challenges you meet along the way and you take set backs as part of the journey.
You see “failure” as “not yet”.
You don’t waste time worrying what other people might be thinking ( actually, people hardly think about others anyway, so why worry???)
You use your energy to learn, to grow, to try again…
You aim for improvement!
You believe you can get better, you have faith.
We can train our brain to work as a growth mind.
So when you change the way you see yourself, YOU change!
It really is worth training your brain in this growth mindset, as you become
a lot happier,
far less stressed out,
a lot more open minded,
far less paralyzed by critics,
a lot more confident you will achieve your goal!
That confidence is the fuel that starts your engine to do things you have never done before!
As you step up and learn, you achieve what you want, what you are committed to!
And once you work with this new mindset, achieving your goals becomes a habit, becomes your new way of dealing with challenges!
A whole new world opens up for you, you feel more free, more competent, more in control of your own life!
So:
Decide what you really want in life
Create the conditions needed to get there
Commit yourself 100%
See every setback as a stepping stone
And last but not least:
Enjoy the feeling of
Thanks for reading me
Katrien